Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Haste Makes Waste

When I was writing the article below, I was searching my memory for occasions when I've mistakenly grabbed the wrong product in haste and suffered the results. My personal recollection was of mixing up my contact lens solutions. That's bad - but I figured no one could relate. One solution is for soaking & cleansing and you're warned NEVER to put it in your eyes. The wetting solution is used to douse the lens right before you insert it directly into your eye. Mixing the solutions means major pain, all your make-up comes off and your eye is bloodshot ALL day. If you have a story like this, please leave it in the comments. I want to hear. (Fodder for my writing too- thank you very much. Though I promise you anonymity.)

It’s dark-thirty and you’re at your bathroom counter hastily going through your morning routine, getting ready for the day. You grab a tube, squeeze out a line of gel and start brushing your teeth. You gag as it hits you that the tube on your counter is NOT toothpaste. The right product, applied the wrong way has tainted your day before it even got started.

Congratulations if you don’t have any memories of an experience similar to the one here. But wait – have you ever gotten an email that left a bad taste in your mouth? How about one that twists your gut or makes you feel like the room just got hotter?

Without a doubt, email is a convenient and time-saving tool. But it becomes a liability when used for the wrong type of communications. I’ve found myself wearing the hat of a mediator more times than I can recount as a result of faulty communications that often started with an email.

When there’s a subject that is personal enough to engage emotions, sometimes a simple phone call can circumvent misunderstandings. The real time-savings is in avoiding a mess that has the potential to drain far more time than it takes to make a phone call.

The problem with email is that non-verbal communication is eliminated. Considering the following statistics from Professor Albert Mehrabian of UCLA who is recognized as an expert in the science of communication, it is no surprise that email messages can be the vehicle for misunderstandings.

Professor Mehrabian states that :
• 7% of message pertaining to feelings and attitudes is in the words that are spoken.
• 38% of message pertaining to feelings and attitudes is paralinguistic (the way that the words are said).
• 55% of message pertaining to feelings and attitudes is in facial expression.

Next time you have a message to deliver that affects feeling and attitudes, consider that your intent has a 7% chance of being interpreted as you intended. Even if the statistic were as high as 50%, you would still be better served to pick up the phone. These statistics also drive home the fact that if the message is weighty, a face-to-face meeting is the best choice. Technology is a wonderful thing, but don’t let convenience make you lazy when it comes to good relationships.

No one wants to be an example of the saying, “I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize that what you read is not what I meant.”

The right message, delivered in the right way, can bring clarity and strength to relationships. Choose well.

Friday, July 23, 2010

The Cutest Little Tea Pot

My mom hosted a Tea Party in honor of Addison's first birthday. You're just in time to join in! (I'm SO grateful my sister captured the whole thing on camera.)

The teacups say "And her eyes went twinkle, twinkle"... and they did.

Wishing you a weekend be filled with sweetness and delight.

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Unmerited Favor

Some experiences leave indelible memories; moments in time that explode into our lives with color, vibrancy and rich tones that leave us forever changed.

This week I’ve been reminiscing about the awesomeness of singing the Hallelujah chorus with a 350 voice choir in Vienna’s Musikverein. It was these lyrics that started my memory channel…

“The kingdom of this world
Is become the kingdom of our Lord,
And of His Christ, and of His Christ;
And He shall reign for ever and ever”

It was by the grace of God that I got to be in such an amazing, life-changing, unforgettable place.

Grace. Unmerited favor – from another kingdom - of another time and another place – a gift that transforms and is freely given. It cost our Father everything and costs us nothing. The kingdom of this world is not the kingdom of our Lord. Yet we can live under the new government; enjoying a freedom, hope and joy that is totally unnatural – because it’s supernatural.

“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, Nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him. But God has revealed them to us through his Spirit.” I want to KNOW NOW about these fantastic things that are yet unexplored and untapped, don’t you?! These things are not just for the “sweet by and by” but for the present, here and now. These things are meant to bring light and clarity to your business, your relationships, your finances and your emotions.

I've been soaking in the truths of unmerited favor in preparation for a Tele-Seminar I'm doing next week and as a result feel refreshed and energized. That thought made me realize I haven't invited YOU to attend. Weds. July 21 at 1 PM Eastern Time, 12 Central and it's free! You do need to register and the details are HERE.

Friday, July 9, 2010

To Tell the Truth

Yesterday, I attended a local Business Women’s Meeting and it was fun and fascinating. We usually have a speaker at the monthly luncheon, but this month we wanted to do something to get to know each other better. What we did was a sort of mixer called “2 Truths and a Lie”. I’ve seen it on blogs - in fact I’ve done it myself - but for the life of me can’t find that post. We learned some very obscure and fun facts about each other (a form of verbal blogging) and laughed more than a little.

Here are the three things I told about myself. You decide which one is a fib (the southern name for a lie).

1. I once was recorded doing a yodeling duet in a beautiful Alpine village in Switzerland.

2. I travelled by dugout canoe to visit the village of an indigenous Indian tribe deep in the rainforest. The gentle natives in their attire of loin cloths for men and skirts with a la naturale tops for the women served us lunch wrapped in banana leaves – their version of china.

3. My most memorable speaking engagement was in 1995 when I shared the platform in Tampa, FL with Zig Ziglar and General Schwarzkopf at a Get Motivated Seminar.

Now, if I posted photos, it would be a total give-away, wouldn't it?

So what do you think? Which is the fib? Click to view the comments and I'll tell you.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

My Toy Story

I’m feeling a little blue, except I have so much to do I can’t live in the land of sadness. I’ve been unplugged for days and enjoying every moment of time with Rosebud.

Last week, I meant to blog about my mad dash to inhabit our home with toys. Cupcake had commented about 10 days before the arrival of our tribe for the holiday that “Rosebud is going to be bored here. You know, she’s VERY active now." Oh me, oh my! My home needs to be the most magical place on earth to our grandchildren so I becamse a woman on a mission. I've never been one to do the garage sale trail, but since we’d already ordered a baby SUV (just kidding – see photo below), I mapped out a plan and went toy shopping. Oh the fun I had! These toys now make me sad as I look out how they were abandoned this very morning…

She enjoyed a water play table on the porch...

We gave her a wagon for her birthday. When papa went shopping for a wagon, he got her the baby SUV variety. She LOVES it and prefers going fast. Hmmm - I think that's a genetic thing.

She helped papa get the corn for dinner.Of course it had to be tested for sweetness.
And isn't this the sweetest image?

Love is splendid. Goodbyes - not so much.
Hope you had a fabulous weekend.